Not everyone does sex for the first time and aces it. Some men even struggle to get to first base. Sex has always been a confidence issue for many. Aside from those who deal with physical problems that hinder their sex life, there are those whose insecurities cripple their ability to find pleasure in it.
But if everyone dealing with these sexual problems simply gave up and ditched sex entirely, they will be missing out on a lot! Men should be able to experience it in their best, confident selves.
Here, we help you bring back your sexual confidence and become a superstar in bed through these five proven tips.
Stay Active
We don’t just mean staying sexually active. We mean getting regular exercise and staying physically healthy and fit.
Most people are aware of the physical benefits of exercise. It keeps your muscles strong, regulates blood circulation, and maintains your ideal body weight and shape. But aside from the astounding effects it does for your body, it also does amazing wonders to your sex life.
In fact, celebrity trainer Jason Rosell has come up with the term “sexercise,” which means exercise to improve one’s sex life. Sexercise helps men achieve the following:
- Improves sexual function to achieve better orgasms (e.g., Kegel exercises)
- Reduces erectile dysfunction
- Improves most common chronic illnesses that hinder sexual performance
- Eliminates side effects from certain drugs that decrease the libido
On top of that, being fit and healthy also helps you feel confident about your body, which can significantly affect one’s perception of sex.
Do Your Research
Having doubts and fears during sex can come from a lack of knowledge about it. The good news is that it’s never too late to learn where the labia are located or how women achieve orgasm. As much as possible, men should be sexually educated to perform it well and be better at it.
There are different resources to learn from, whether from the countless articles posted on the internet, a book, or a sex therapist. The goal is not to become a sex expert right after but to become more aware of its ins and outs—no pun intended!
Practice Edging
Edging is a form of orgasm control known to help both men and women achieve better orgasms. It’s coined from the word “edge,” which metaphorically means stopping oneself from falling off the cliff’s edge to orgasm.
If coming prematurely is the problem, edging can help men better extend their orgasm further. This is done by stopping sexual stimulation when one feels like they’re at the peak, waiting for 30 seconds before resuming, and repeating until they come.
Consider Using Sex Toys
Sex toys are great complementary tools during sexual activity, whether alone or with a partner. In fact, 45 percent of men aged between 18 to 65 years have used a vibrator and found significant improvement in their sexual health and perception after using one.
There are different kinds of sex toys out there, each serving various purposes. For instance, if the lack of confidence comes from only having an average-sized penis, men can use penis sleeves or cock extensions. Doing so may help them feel better about themselves and know they satisfy their partners.
Whether it’s to help themselves or their partner achieve sexual pleasure, using sex toys is a fun and helpful way to be more sexually aware.
Communicate with Your Partner
Sex should be a give-and-take process between both parties. This means each of them should know how to please the other and vice-versa. And this can only be achieved through proper communication.
It may make them feel better for men who have sexual insecurities if they share those doubts with their partners. It may not be easy, but it’s the first step for them to understand how these fears came to be. Doing so also helps both parties to come up with solutions to make sex enjoyable.
They can try sharing which parts of their body to touch to arouse them. Or they can discuss or try out different sex positions to spice things up a bit. No one is a mind reader, so it’s easier to communicate these things to achieve sexual satisfaction together.
The Takeaway
Sex isn’t always like the movies where couples instantly know what to do. A lot of times, it can be confusing, frustrating, and surprising all rolled into one. But by applying these tips, we’ll be able to overcome our anxiety and fears and start looking at sex at a whole other level.
