For a good starting point on hooking up, let’s start with the ugly and work our way up to the best case scenario.
Let’s face it. Long lasting relationships that lead to marriage are hard work and in the past 5 years, divorce rates have been climbing to around 50%. There is a long list of reasons as to why marriages and relationships fail, including infidelity, financial disagreements and unhealthy environments for children. 5 years ago, the words divorce or separation were looked at with such negative connotations, that it forced unhappy couples to stay together and try and work things out, when the relationship could have been toxic.
Today, with over half of all marriages ending up in divorce, there is a good chance that you know someone who has gone through the process of splitting up with their partner. The negativity towards dissolution of a marriage has been slowly dwindling because of normalization. Enough people split up lives and families, that it’s generally accepted in society. There are also enough people who have gone through this separation process, that they never have intent to get married again.
This is where a hookup site like Shagbook can help make an ugly situation better. People coming out of broken relationships still have the primal need for human connection without the emotional baggage that comes with a relationship. Nobody wants to sit and listen to a recent divorcee talk about the skeletons in their closet or the problems they had in their last relationship, while they are trying to get together to just hookup with no strings attached.
OK. Let’s skip to the hooking up part and leave the skeleton’s in the closet. If you are the recently single person, shut your mouth and remember that you are on a date with a sexy single who wants nothing other than primal satisfaction. If you are on the other side of the table, listening to your potential hookup talk about their problems, be up front and honest with why you are meeting each other in the first place. You are there to hookup, nothing more and nothing less. If the person obsessively continues to talk about themselves and it’s unattractive, just pay your portion of the bill and leave. It will be their fault they miss out on a one night stand, no strings attached, no feelings hookup.
The reality is that not every meet up is going to turn into a hookup because people need to have realistic expectations. You met this person on a site where people pay a monthly fee to have access to members who are looking to have a good time, with no strings attached. Are love connections made on Shagbook.com? Yes of course they are, but that is not what this website is designed for. It is designed to feed your primal desires to have sex and hookup (safely) with people who share the same non-monogamous values.
Moving onto a bad?scenario for your hookup, let’s assume you have made it to your flat or their place and it seems like it’s the perfect recipe for a successful hookup.
You have done all of your research on this person and they have done their fair share of internet stalking to see who you really are. Both of you have been chatting and there is enough chemistry there where you are both ready to take the next step and hookup with no strings attached.
Back to the flat, it’s imminent why you are there because you have already chatted about it and made the decision to hookup in real life. Skip the pleasantries and just go for it. If the person doesn’t reciprocate right away, you can always lighten the mood with a casual conversation about the day and possibly reiterate the chat you have had on Shagbook about likes and dislikes to get comfortable again. Settled? Okay good.
Get right into the heavy petting and make out scene and get your hookup into the bedroom. Things are hot and heavy and going well and then there is a performance issue. BAD. It seems like it just is not happening and the hookup possibility is dead. Performance issues can happen to both men and women and it’s more common than you would think, especially for newcomers to a hookup site. It’s embarrassing for your hookup partner, so be a little bit sensitive if you can. It might be worthwhile to try a little foreplay or bring out some sex toys to enhance the anticipation. You might as well do everything in your power to lighten the mood in hopes that it allows your partner to relax a bit. The eventual outcome is either you have no strings attached sex, or you end up sticking with foreplay and satisfying yourself. At this point, it’s time to give up. Send your hookup home and head back Shagbook.com and start your hunt again.
Now this is just one possible bad scenario and there are many stories that we have heard regarding bragging, embellishing and outright lying which all potentially lead to a bad experience for your hookup. Make sure you do everything you can to set expectations for your hookup, so nobody ends up disappointed. If foreplay and toys are part of the equation, then talk about it with your hookup and also remind them that you are looking for a no strings attached fling or a one night stand. Even a bad hookup situation can be remedied. Remember that not everyone is a pro and practice makes perfect. With new members joining the site everyday, it’s possible that you might be just breaking someone into the hookup scene, so keep that in mind.
Saving the best for last, let’s talk about the recipe for a successful GOOD?hookup. Due diligence is an important factor when you are making a connection with someone on Shagbook. You should be creating dialogue with your potential hookup and using the platform to communicate/chat about what you are looking to accomplish. Do you want a one night stand? Are you looking for a consistent sexy hookup or just looking to have a little sexy fun and see where it takes you?
If you are open with your potential hookup, then you will get exactly what you want. Chat about your likes, dislikes and boundaries. Find out the same about your hookup and see how far you can push the limits. If you are both transparent with what the expectations are, then it might be the perfect recipe for a no strings attached hookup.
Once you have met your hookup on real life, keep it casual. Remember you are both there for consensual, no strings attached sex. If you both know the terms of hooking up, then there is a better chance of the your sex dating adventures being great.
As we said above, some real love connections are made at Shagbook, but we are a hookup site for horny singles who are looking for one night stands and no strings attached dating. This is a place for you to be discreet and have fun! Sex is fun and you should be enjoying intimacy with others who share the same primal sex drive that you have.
Be safe and be courteous. There are plenty of members that may not be your perfect long term match, but might be the best hookup for you right now. Start your search today and remember that not every hookup is great, but you can make the best out of every situation and if you can’t, there is another person waiting to give you the attention that you need and deserve. Happy hunting!